Roadblocks and Forced Stops

Have you ever taken a road only to find it’s a dead-end or there’s a roadblock keeping you from traveling on? It can be extremely frustrating, especially if you are running late or just in a hurry! Or if you are dead-set on having your way!

I was all ready to go, and so looking forward to the women’s Christmas event, then I went to the garage only to find my left front tire extremely low on air. I immediately knew I couldn’t drive my car like that without ruining the tire. So I went back in tbe house in tears, I had so been looking forward to attending this and now I was stuck. I felt sad and frustrated, and rather than seeing my being stuck home as a gift, I saw it as me not getting what I wanted. I pouted like a little child after being told a final “no.” I cancelled the other plans I had for the day and pushed through working at Saturday housework.

Now this past weekend came with our church’s Christmas sing-along, and early on in the weekend I found myself coming down with a cold, my sinuses plugged and a throbbing headache. I went to sing-along sick, but only sang a few songs. It felt disappointing.

I have been pushing hard through life being all-responsible in making sure my mom has gotten the care she needs and taking care of everything involved in that. I didn’t stop doing anything else in my normal schedule, my “plate” overflowed with too much. I refused to say “no”, I refused to give in to my exhaustion, I pressed on.

I had breakfast with my brother last week. Sometimes the Lord speaks through the unexpected. My brother and I have been arguing about how I am handling things. I felt misunderstood, unappreciated, and angry. He finally told me, “You have to stop, you can’t do it all, either you choose to stop or you will be stopped,” He went on to list ways I could be stopped, telling me it could be a heart-attack, or cancer, or a car accident…and the list of horrors went on. I heard his words and set them aside, I didn’t have time for any of that! Well, when you refuse to listen the first time the Lord will repeat His words.

I am reading Shelly Miller’s book “Rhythm’s of Rest” and a few days ago I read about forced stops. She says,”We can interpret interruptions as roadblocks to peace or as moments for deepening relationship, trusting in the path God dictates.” Reading it made me stop and think about what my brother had said as well as the things that have been happening. I interpreted both “interruptions” as roadblocks to peace, because I only wanted my way. Later in the chapter Miller goes on to say, “God wants our attention no matter the circumstance, we must be willing to surrender.”

The tire with low air, and the sinus gunk were opportunities to say no to good things because the Lord knew my body desperately needed rest. I didn’t get it. Like a stubborn child, I wanted what I wanted!

The Lord loves us so much and wants the best for us. He knows the fragility of our human bodies. He knows we just cannot keep going and going pushing on overwhelmed with stress.

He lovingly gave me two opportunities to take time to rest and I chose my own way. The first time I set to work out of anger and frustration. The second time I chose to go to an event even though I was sick.

Sometimes the good things we plan are not really the best things for us. I see now that I need to be more aware, and look and listen for the Lord to really show me what He wants for me. When my schedule is already overflowing and I am already beyond exhaustion, I do not need to add more to my to-do list even if it seems like they are fun and relaxing activities.

My eyes need to be on the Lord rather than on all I have to do or want to do. He wants relationship with me, He wants to show me His loving-presence. He wants the best for me. He wants to take care of me even when I forget or lose sight of caring for myself.

How are you doing this busy Christmas season? Are you taking time to listen to the Lord? Are you finding time to rest?

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6 thoughts on “Roadblocks and Forced Stops

  1. Cheryl, I could so relate to the car incident. A few years ago, we had a lemon car on its last leg that constantly taught me this very lesson you describe!

    I love this quote: “We can interpret interruptions as roadblocks to peace or as moments for deepening relationship, trusting in the path God dictates.”

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  2. Amen, Cheryl. I am so thankful for an Almighty God who not only is Just and Holy but cares for His children with Compassion. Sometimes God has to intervene when we lose track of who we are in Christ. Our priority must be our relationship with Him. Thank you for sharing this encouraging story. This is a beautiful reminder of the ways God reveals His love toward us. May He continue to bless you and yours this Christmas and in the New Year. #TeaAndWordTuesday

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  3. Sounds like you have a wonderful brother! He cares about what’s best for you. Keeping your eyes on the Lord is good advice at any time of the year, but especially this stressful time!

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  4. Cheryl, what a gift that God has given you eyes to see His care for you even in the disappointments that have come to you this season. I’m going to carry this lesson forward, because I’m not good at slowing down either.

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  5. Learning to rest is harder than it sounds! I’m finding that sometimes doing “nothing” is exactly what God wants from me at that moment — to reconnect with Him and with others.

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  6. This is so hard when we feel there are things that need to get done (or we want to get done): “My eyes need to be on the Lord rather than on all I have to do or want to do.” But yes, it is the answer. I’m still learning these lessons too.

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