Necessary Changes

Christmas is over. And now the New Year is nearly upon us again. I have been thinking about the changes I need to make in 2019 for about the past six weeks. My phrase for the new year is “Recalibrate Life.” I want more whitespace in my days and on my calendar, and that won’t happen without focus and intention.

It seems second nature to me to want to “do.” I choose to be busy every moment. I rescue and respond. I plan and press on. So, in order to create more whitespace, I need to evaluate my choices more closely.

I especially need to consider why I am choosing to do the things I choose. Because for me it is often about earning love, even though I make it look like I am giving. But, in reality, it all leaves me resentful and exhausted.

So what do I need to change? I need to give serious thought to what is life-giving. Pushing and pressing-on constantly are not life-giving, instead they are sucking life right out of me.

Creating whitespace does not mean emptying time for staring into space and being bored. Instead for me it means taking time to breathe, to breathe deeply, to be present in the moments of life. I need to slow down and enjoy the “living of” and “being in” life.

You know, like the slow chat I had with a friend as we watercolored in our journals and had lunch in a local coffee shop. Moments like that where time slows and you are only attentive to what matters. In this case it was sharing with my friend and brushing colored water across my journal pages.

I am realizing in order to have more of those moments I need to expect less of me. It will not happen if I have 20 to-do’s on my daily planning page. It won’t happen if my mind is racing and I am buried in “being responsible” for everyone and everything. So I have to say “no” more. I think, in reality, for me that means telling myself I can’t do it all. I have to slice out the unneccesary and intentionally focus on the essential.

I need to ask for help more and let go of so many expectations. It means less proving and looking for acknowledgment.

Life-giving moments of whitespace will be ones that are about creating, enjoying, breathing, and playing. Those moments need to be tucked in all of life. In solitude and in time I share with the Lord and with loved ones.

I am realizing too much of life has been about the end result, the accomplishing the end goal. And in being so hyper-focused on that, I have missed the actual moments of living and loving this gift of life the Lord has given me.

Along with these, I will be focusing on knowing God as my Provider, the One Who knows and sees my needs. A big part of this will be an intentional study of rest, space, simplicity, and Sabbath. I have made a list of books I want to read in 2019, just one book a month. I want want to really take it all to heart and live out their practices in my day-to-day life.

Learning about rest, space, simplicity, and Sabbath will naturally lead me to know the Lord more as my Provider. Just as choosing to abandon outcomes teaches me of His Sovereignty, learning to trust Him with my time will help me me see His prevision and provision for me. He holds my time. He has a plan. He is in control. He is responsible. Trust.

Trusting more, and learning more about trust will be key as I walk through this new year of recalibrating life.

What about you? Are you contemplating any necessary changes for 2019 in your life?

11 thoughts on “Necessary Changes

  1. I like the mental image of creating “white space” in our lives, because it’s the white space in media that’s lets the mind notice what matters, rather than flirting around the page trying to figure out where the focus should be!


  2. This sounds like a great plan for the new year! It’s so easy to cram our days full and try to do too much. We all need that white space and space to be open to the unexpected and what God wants to do. Happy New Year!


  3. I’m not sure how to say this but you took the words out of my head and put them here. This is said so directly but I’ve had a hard time articulating what I have experienced. Thank you!


  4. I am entering this new year a little quieter, expecting less of myself as well. I entered the new year with a prayer for a life that bears more fruit because of His doing and not mine. These were wonderful insights to read this morning. Blessings!


    1. “only by grace”… that is a phrase I need to incorporate more into my heart and life. Thank you for sharing that. And yes, prayer is definitely the key, although busyness can get in the way when we aren’t careful! Thank you again!

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  5. This is beautiful! I love how real you are, facing the fact that you know that your doing has more to do with getting love and less about giving. It is so hard for me to see those things in myself, but God has shown me many of them over the last year. My word that God gave me last year was “fearless” and He did some amazing works in me throughout the year. I learned that so much of my fears were really based on a fear of being rejected. While I still struggle with it at times, I am definitely a changed girl! My word for this year, which God just showed me this morning, is “relationship.” But it is all about relationship with Him. I am excited to head into another year with Him! And a little nervous! LOL.

    Thanks for linking up @LiveLifeWell




  6. I started consciously saying no and taking back our lives 6 or so years ago when we began homeschooling and it has made such a tremendous difference! I hope you find more white space in your life as the year unfolds because once it does you’ll see how wonderful and slow it can be. Sure I still have stressful times and days here and there where so many things are crammed onto the to do list I know I can’t possibly get to them all but they are so rare that I don’t mind.


  7. This is so good and something I need too. God has really put it on my heart to exchange control for surrender and lay down my agenda to be more present to my moments this year! These are helpful and wonderful thoughts!


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